If you think you are suffering from PMAD (or you just feel “off”), I strongly encourage you to get help.
A mom friend once told me “you need a dark friend who you can share your dark talk with.” I don’t love the idea of these feelings being considered “dark talk” (suggesting it’s to be kept inside), but I completely understand what she means. If there are any friends or family you trust to talk about your feelings with, reach out. You may be surprised at how understanding others can be – keep in mind that PMAD and PPD are relatively new topics for a lot of people, but often times it just means they didn’t realize that what they experienced had a name.
If you don’t have a “dark friend,” please check out some of the resources provided by Postpartum Support International (PSI) under their “Get Help” menu. They even include help options for new dads or family members who may be suffering.
IN AN EMERGENCY PLEASE CALL THE NATIONAL SUICIDE PREVENTION HOTLINE AT 1-800-273-8255 OR VISIT THE NATIONAL SUICIDE PREVENT LIFELINE WEBSITE